![]() From: Ms. Alyson Lately, in my relationship, I’ve noticed that my boyfriend and I have rarely been communicating with one another; the only communication we have is via text. And I don’t see the point of being in a relationship if there is no physical contact. I also have noticed that he has a problem against the LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transsexual) community, he complains and makes fun of them. I find it to be very offensive in many ways and it irks me because I’m a supporter of the LGBT community. I still have feelings for him and I like him a lot, but I am simply not in “love” with him. I want out of this relationship and I am not sure how to tell him without doing it in a harsh way. Any help? He said: The feeling you have is very common. Many people do not like long distance relationships and the feeling that there’s a lack of communication. The problem you addressed about him having a problem with the LGBT community is a BIG no-no. The distance is also an issue because it can just pulls the both of you further and further apart. If you want to break up with him in a nice way, start off with saying, “I’ve been noticing...” and continue what you must say and then bring in the problems that have been bothering you. Be completely honest with him. He should understand and if not, don’t be afraid. She said: You cannot be in a healthy relationship if your boyfriend is against your views. You should talk to him and find out if that is really how he feels about gay people. If he was just playing around, let him know you don’t find that humorous at all. Many guys joke around like that and they do not realize how their jokes affect certain people. You never know, maybe you can work things out. Good luck! From: Mr. Worrisome In my home life, I have been facing a lot of problems that have also accumulated into my school life. I’m not sure on how to deal with the fact that this is affecting me, both physically and mentally. I try to refrain from thinking negatively, and I really don’t know if I have a choice. He said: What you must first do is take your time and think things through. You should try to separate home from school. If you see that you can’t finish homework at home, try to take time and finish it in school so it won’t add onto your stress. Also keep problems out of your head, and don’t over think items; it makes things more complicated. If you still feel as if you are not coping, try to speak to a school counselor, or a teacher you are close with. Talking about your feelings can help and put things into perspective and everything will be fine. She said: Being depressed and anxious affect everyone in different ways. Talk to someone about how you’re feeling. Sometimes it’s a good idea to have someone hear you out and be able to help. There is only so much a person can take, and you’re keeping your problems bottled up and sooner or later you’re going to have an emotional breakdown. Just remember that you are not alone; there are a lot of support groups you can go for help.
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